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Thursday, November 15, 2012

Bible study

Our homes should be havens of rest. I know there are a lot of times when mine isn't. Lately, it hasn't been the messiness, but the quarreling and striving of my children. I tend to just snap at them and say, "Get along. Quit that." or even, "Knock it off." But I'm not reaching their hearts. I read a really good note on that today.

Sometimes these issues take more than a quick snappy response.  They take time invested to get to the heart of the matter. May I be honest? I don't want to. There are other things I would rather do with my time than sit with a teen-ager who doesn't want to answer me because he's mad at a sibling. It's hard for me to know how to handle these things.

But I better learn. I've only been the mother of a teen for two years (not even), but I have 16 more years to go. So I need to step up and ask the Lord for wisdom in this area, for patience, for understanding. It's been almost 20 years since I was a teen ager and 26 years since I was a young teen. Honestly, I remember the awkwardness of it all, but I don't really remember what it's like.

When I was a teen, I was living in a third world country.  Things look pretty different over there and if memory serves, a lot less petty, well not really, I guess - we're all human.  But it seemed that way to me.  The struggles of going to a dorm and only seeing my parents at break are not things that my child is going to deal with.  So I even have a cultural barrier to hurdle.

Prayer is key, because from what I'm seeing, God needs to work BIG-time on this heart - MY heart first. If I let Him, He can do the work in my heart, and that in turn will pave the way in my children's hearts. It will make things a lot easier.

Making the most of today,



  1. Oh, I totally understand that feeling of, "I don't want to!" Raising kids is hard, except when it's harder. May God give you strength and wisdom today.

  2. Thank you. Today in Bible study we talked about "Carefully Composed Words". I'm afraid that I do carefully compose my words when I have a friend I need to talk with, but not when I need to address a problem with my children.