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Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Wednesday's Household - A Mother's (and father's) Job

I heard a conversation the other day and at first I didn't think anything of it.  One mother was concerned that her boys were learning to fight and argue with each other from another family with boys.    She didn't want her boys to grow up fighting.

She was told, "Boys will be boys. You can't worry about it. That's just the way they will be."  And at first I thought that was o.k.

And then I've been working with my boys on cleaning their room.  It may seem like a totally different topic, but it's not - not really. 

You see, I've been told that they should be allowed to have their room just as they would like, even if that means that they can't walk on their floor.  But aside from the fact that their father disagrees, which is enough reason in and of itself, I remembered that I have a job.

That job is to train and teach my boys to be the kind of godly men they should be.  "Let all things be done decently and in order." It says that in I Corinthians.  A room like theirs is not decent nor is it in order.  Allowing my children to argue and fight is not teaching them to be loving and kind.

Yes, my children have a bent for unclean rooms and clothes lying around.  They also have a bent toward arguing with each other and fighting. 

Does this mean that I should just let it go?  No.  It doesn't.  If I were to do that, and trust me, I have (too many times), then I am not doing my job as a parent.

So I will continue to work with my children and teach them to be the men God wants them to be.

Making the most of today


  1. Great post! I agree that children should be taught to be orderly. That doesn't mean their rooms need to be spotless, but at least picked up. (We struggle with this with a few of my kids as well.) Chad often makes the point that our home belongs us, (he and I) and as the ones who pays the bills we have the right to tell the people living in our home how they should treat it. Keeping a picked up room is just a lesson in real life. Being respectful of other people's property is something we all have to learn.