Last Sunday, our pastor talked about the tongue - the negative aspect in the morning and the positive aspect in the evening. I was reminded about how when I was in high school and college, I used to make a lot of mistakes in what I said to people. I do talk a lot and as Proverbs says, "in the multitude of words there wanteth not sin." You might want to look that up in a newer version, but I grew up with the KJV and that's how I remember it. I was thinking of how I have, seemingly, been doing better. YEAH!!! It's no fun messing up with your words and feels awful when you find you've hurt someone.
So there I was listening to my pastor's sermon and thinking, "Yep, got this one under control." During the evening service, the realization hit me that I do NOT have this under control, as I am putting out fires all the time at home because I bring discouragement to my children often when I am frustrated with them. When seven of them are all needing my attention, I can get pretty exasperated with them and my speech isn't always "seasoned with salt".
I've noticed that with one especially, the discouragement is clearly visible on his face and I am reminded that while it IS my job to teach them, my words must still be seasoned with salt. I need to be careful that my frustration doesn't come through in my words. Isn't there a way I can speak to them that will show my care and love for them as well as help them grow.
Ephesians 4:25-32 were the positive outlook on the tongue. "Let no unwholesome talk proceed from your mouth, but only that which" edifies. Sometimes when I'm speaking to them it sounds degrading. "Haven't I taught you how to clean the sink? Why would you leave it like this? This certainly does not look like what I've taught you to do." Depending on my tone, I can sound reproving, which is acceptable, or degrading.
May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my strength and my Redeemer.
So may our words be seasoned with salt and edify those who hear it.