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Monday, January 9, 2012

Training up children

A friend came over the other day and we had a good talk. It was so nice to see her and because of the beautiful weather, her kids and mine were outside running around for the afternoon.

The most encouraging thing about it is we were able to challenge one another through the course of the conversation and encourage one another. What a joy when conversation steers toward truths of the Scripture! When this happens conversation becomes more, it becomes fellowship.

We were talking, of course, of the challenge of raising children. And the frustration that comes upon us when they aren't walking in the truth. And then, lo and behold, we aren't walking in the truth, because we're just so irritated that they are arguing or complaining or whatever.

As we were talking, we began discussing the facts that working on these issues outside the moment is so much better than working on them when they are happening. Obviously, we must train in the latter moments, but if we can help them ahead of time learn the truths, so much better.

We were talking of looking at a list of weaknesses in our children's lives and then picking one point to work on. It's easier to work on a whole group rather than individualize it when you have seven, so we're are choosing selfishness.

Oh and actually, my friend told me that what you work on is the opposite of the negative, so we're really working on generousity. Now, not all of my children have this as their number one problem, but all of them can use some work in this area.

Now, it's my job to talk with them about how it looks to be generous (specifically with our siblings). So I will talk about it with them at meal tables, if I don't forget and when they go to bed and when they are doing schoolwork. Hmmm, sounds a bit like something I've read in Deuteronomy.

Thanks to my friend for such a wonderful time of conversation. One that not only lasted for the time of catching up, but is still causing me to ponder the truths of the Word, days later.

Proverbs 27:17 "Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."

I pray each of you has friends that sharpen you as well, and may our hearts be willing to be sharpened. It doesn't always feel good.

In Christ,

1 comment:

  1. You are such a dear friend and a good writer!!! The national center for biblical parenting (NCBP) is where I read the parent tip. If you want to get their emails or just look at the website go to
    they have great resources, idea and help. :) love you!