How do you help your children learn to keep their rooms clean, or do you? I believe there are no wrong answers to this questions, except maybe, "I don't know. I haven't thought about it."
In our house, I am on the fence as it were. I could go with the thought of, "It's their room, they should be allowed to keep it how they want to." I could also go with the idea that they learn to care for things if I teach them and expect a certain standard.
Just last week, in an effort to "de-clutter" as FLYlady says, we pulled everything out of their rooms (or most everything) and put it back neatly. I sorted for them and they only had to bring it downstairs so I could do so.
So this week, I'd like to see them maintain. Oh, and back to the question before, the reason I do have an opinion about what should happen in our house, is because dh does. So we're gonna go with that. Call it submission if you like. Yes, it is, actually. I will submit to his leadership. How easy is that when I'm sitting on the fence anyway. It's a real problem for me when I take a clear stand on the OTHER side of the camp. My life-long goal in my relationship to my husband. Anyway.....that's a TOTALLY different topic. ;)
So this week, while mothers are dropping off babies, my goal is to have my kids up in their rooms working on them. If we're running behind, then we'll set the next available time for them to do this. Around 8:30 or whenever they come and claim their room is clean, I go up to their room and pick up everything I find that is not in it's place or neat. Obviously, they are the ones who've helped with these decisions. Toys should not be stacked on books, and dirty clothes should not be behind the dresser. These things, we (and they do too) know.
The laundry goes in the laundry basket. Anything I deem as trash goes in the trash can. And the other treasures I find, yes, even books, go in a box. That box is currently in my room. If you are missing something, you may check said box and see if it's in there. If it is, you must do a chore to reclaim it - something besides your normal chores. It may be feeding a baby its bottle or watching a toddler for a few minutes. And the other rule, you MAY NOT under any circumstances take more than one thing for one chore. We have plenty to do around here, you may do another chore to redeem something else.
We'll see how long this works. But for now, the rooms are clean, and I didn't have to pick up much this morning.