I'm a little humbled. I haven't gotten it right yet. Next Saturday, we'll have been married 17 years. And I still don't have it right.
You may have heard all of this before from me, if so you can find something else to read. I don't do a very good job of keeping track of what I have and haven't written about.
Here's the thing. When he casually mentions that he'd like something done, I need to do whatever it takes to get it done as soon as I can. For me that usually means writing it done on a to-do list, because with all the things I'm working on, it usually gets relegated to the back of my brain and I may or may not remember it again.
Usually, I remember it when he walks in the door, or goes to the spot that he'd mentioned he'd like cared for, or when he asks about it. Too late.
He's my number one guy, besides God who is in fact the most important one - I forget that priority all too often as well.
So if I remember back to when I was dating - and yes, I know I'm not now and therefore the relationship is very different - but back then I wanted to remember everything he suggested. I was diligent to remember, I didn't need a list.
Last week, as he was preparing to preach on Sunday, he asked if I could pick something out for him and have it ready by church. I did put it on a list, and then got into my busyness and the list ended up somewhere, but not in front of me. Still the thought crossed my mind several times, but I was waiting for the shirt he'd thrown into the laundry basket to come through the dryer, because I knew I would do it then.
Saturday and still no shirt and he asks about it. Ugh, where is that shirt? Sitting in the now-full laundry basket in my room. Oh no!!! But I still have time. It's not Sunday yet.
I take the laundry basket downstairs and send one of my helpers with it to the laundry room to start a load. In my mind, it was a full load of wash and all needed to go in, but in his mind it was two loads. So the shirt ended up still sitting in the laundry basket the next morning when I went to get the wash out of the washer to put in the dryer.
I was somewhat panicked but simply set aside that load to be dried and started the washer. The shirt is finally getting clean. Later when the washer was done, I put only the shirt in the dryer and it came out of the dryer with minutes to spare.
My goal is to quickly and diligently do the things that he suggests need to be done so that I'm not left in the pickle of trying to get it done last minute. It will save a lot of stress from my mind.
Keep pressing on,